She sat in the living space with her parents as her son played on the floor with his toys. She stared at her first child lovingly, feeling a sense of amazement, almost disbelief, he was her own. Her parents, present in this moment, observed in silence. Hearts full of love watching their offspring watch her first child. Generations of their descendants unfolding before their very eyes.
Her father spoke up first, have you thought of having another one? She knew the question was coming. All the grandparents have been asking. She tried to be careful when answering this question. Knowing there was an urgency for them to see their posterity.
She paused before responding while looking at her Sonshine. Then her mother spoke the most insightful words from heaven. Take your time, her mother said. I don’t understand when women have their children back to back, because it’s the first child that suffers. Trust me, I know what I’m talking about, I was that woman. Her very thoughts spoken out loud from the womb of the woman she came from. She nodded with appreciation. And finally spoke up to answer her father’s question.
Yes, dad, by the grace of God, I would like to wait till he’s closer to age three. He’s still young and in need of a lot of attention. I’m not ready for another one right now. Her father appreciated her honest answer. It was her honesty that made way for the unheard stories of her early years. She was the second child. The unexpected, and oops baby. Birthed two years apart from her first sibling. Her parents detailed years of endless sacrifices and unimaginable challenges.
A side of parenthood she has yet to experience and hopes she never has to confront. Endless lessons were taught from that one conversation. Her parents shared their perspective and this is what they taught her. Parenthood will come with surprises, setbacks, and triumphs, but it won’t break nor defeat you. It will make you into the person you were created to be. The greatest lesson in life, her parents shared with her, is the lessons taught by your children.
Pondering deeply about what they revealed to her. She realized having another child is not just about timing, pregnancy, or adding to the family. It’s about making sure your soul and spirit are healthy. Your heart, pure. Your mind, set on the purposeful vision of what your family will represent: now, tomorrow, and forevermore.
This narrative is dedicated to my first child, Micah Isaiah.